Strategies to Clear My Mind – Using Words to Remove Tension

Use Words to Remove Tension
Written words are a powerful tool to assist and support you to remove tension. As teenagers, many of us kept a diary to record our feelings, emotions and events of the day. This is still a beneficial strategy to use today.

It doesn’t take a lot of time, perhaps three minutes in the morning to set your intentions for the day.


Changing Your Words To Reach Your Dreams

I have a question and it’s a pretty intense question – what would your life be like if you could take all the negative emotions you ever felt and lower their intensity so they didn’t impact you as powerfully, so you are always in charge?185

What would your life be like if you could take the most positive emotions and intensify them, thereby taking your life to a higher level? You can do both of these. Change your words and you will change your experiences and your outcomes.

So If I change the following words, I can change their impact on me. For example:


  • Afraid to disenchanted
  • Confused to curious
  • Exhausted to recharging
  • Failure to learning
  • Hurt to bothered
  • Hate to I prefer
  • Nervous to energised
  • Overwhelmed to many opportunities
  • Stressed to blessed

If I change the following positive words to even more positive, I could increase their intensity and in turn increase the way they feel for me. For example:

If I changed:

  • Determined to unstoppable
  • Excited to ecstatic
  • Good to magic
  • Good to vibrant
  • Great to exuberant
  • Interested to enthralled
  • Motivated to passionate
  • Okay to fantastic
  • Okay to perfect
  • Strong to invincible
  • Terrific to ecstatic

How much more inspiring are these words?

If we are going to change the words we use, we are really changing our habits. So how do you change habits?

To change habits, do the following:

  1. Decide that you are committed to having a life with deeper positive experiences and less negative experiences
  2. Acknowledge that the language you use has an impact on the experiences you have
  3. Pick three words in the positive category to replace and give more intensity to
  4. Pick three words in the negative category to replace and give less meaning to
  5. Find people around you who can support you. These three people will remind you (gently and nicely) that you need to be using the new words
  6. Do it for 10 days, then review and tweak if needed
  7. If you have found you enjoy these new words then perhaps you can pick three more words to use so that your language becomes your asset

“Be an inspiration to yourself and
you will be an inspiration to others.”

A Feng Shui State Of Mind Is A Feeling Of Deep Inner Peace, Balance And Harmony

DeCluttering Your Mind

  • A Feng Shui state of mind is a feeling of deep inner peace, balance and harmony.
  • This state of mind can give you both an energy boost and unblock energy.
  • The potential to be in this state of mind is with us always, but the real challenge is learning how to listen to it.
  • There is so much happening on the surface: distractions, mental clutter, to-do lists and should’s, that it is difficult to reach that inner state of grace.

DeClutter Your Mind for More Clarity

  • Clarity is something that a mind needs in order to function.
  • Too often, we walk around in a fog thinking of errands that need to be done, chores that need tending to, and family obligations.
  • Obtaining a clear mind is not an easy task
  • However, there are tips that are designed to help you to achieve a clear, focused mind.

Benefits of a Decluttered Mind

  • The best place to begin to declutter your life is from the inside.
  • Many people overlook the benefits a healthy mind can offer.
  • The mind can become bogged down with emotional baggage and seriously impact a person’s ability to function.
  • Decision making can become a challenge and coping with problems may feel nearly impossible when you do not have a clear mental state; therefore, it is important to learn how to free your mind of unnecessary clutter.

Since everyone is different there is no one-size-fits-all method to clear your mind of clutter; however, the following are some common techniques that can begin you on your journey to decluttering your life by first decluttering your mind!

Be Happy Before You Have a Reason

“I am happy before I have a reason.” I wish I could tell you who this quote is from but I have no idea. Have you ever put much thought into what makes you happy? What do you need to be happy? What needs to occur for you to be happy?176

Have you realised that for many of us, our default state is that of not being happy. For some people their happiness is not dependent on them but on others. Some people feel that loved ones must prove their love constantly for them to be happy.

Have you thought about the saying “What you focus on is what you get?” So if you are focusing on happiness, what happens? If you are focusing on not being happy, what happens?

I am fascinated by language at the moment. Really listening to what people are saying and more importantly how they are saying it. Just today, a conversation with some friends, I will give them names for the sake of story telling.

Julie: “How was the high tea?”
Sally: “I was disappointed.”
Julie: “Really? Why?”
Sally: “Everything was beautiful – the food, the set up, it was all lovely, but I would have liked more people in my age group there.”
Julie: “Oh – so you still enjoyed yourself?”
Sally: “Yes, of course.”

What do you think of that conversation? I found it interesting that Sally focused on such a negative aspect to start with and that overall Sally had enjoyed herself. The food was lovely, the people there were lovely, she just had one expectation that wasn’t met and that tainted her whole view of the event. Do you do this sometimes? Need everything to be ‘just right’ to give something the tick of approval or are you someone who just needs most things to be ‘just right’ to feel that it was fantastic?

We, in this world that we live in, really do have so many reasons to be happy as we don’t have loads of obstacles in our way. We have fresh running water, we have roofs over our heads, and we have food in our cupboards.

Our attention is often caught at what is going wrong. Perhaps it is as easy as looking for what is good or right.

Ultimately, we can’t be a source of happiness for others until we are a source of happiness for ourselves first. So how can you be happy for yourself?

Whoever we are and whatever we believe, much of what we call happiness is in our own hands. It need not have a reason, it need not depend on events outside our selves, and it is not beyond our power to choose. Does happiness arise primarily from how we perceive and value life itself? From how we perceive and treat other people and from how we value our own existence? How we think about our own existence is critical. Not just how we think or how positively we think but who and what we think we are.

We can be the cause of immense happiness for ourselves and others even or especially in the face of pain and grief. Happiness isn’t just joy, bliss, pleasure, fun. It is all those things sometimes and yet from a sacred perspective particularly, happiness more accurately describes a state of aliveness that has abundant room for compassion and sorrow. That has the patience to be forgiving.

What we care about, we will protect.

For thousands of years we have had profound spiritual teachings available to us, from the north, south, east and west that our personal happiness isn’t about grasping and getting. It is about caring well beyond our golden gate.

We should love our neighbours as we love ourselves

Loving ourselves can already be a challenge.

As the Dalai Lama says “Be kind whenever possible and it is always possible.”

So start to focus on your happiness. Be happy for no other reason than you choose to be happy right now. Others will feel the positive energy or vibes from you. You will be someone they want to be around. You will be an inspiration to others. How wonderful is that?

“Be an inspiration to yourself and
you will be an inspiration to others.”

Stress Is How We React To A Situation

What is stress?
What causes stress?

A lot of people believe stress is from their environment, people, pressure, time – it is none of this it is how we react to this.

  • Spilt milk at home and your reactions
  • We have a response called fright or flight – summon all the resources we need to fight something or flee it.
  • When we have this stress response the body changes, heart beats faster, brain function changes, vision narrows while it is lifesaving people are using this response on a daily basis e.g. Waiting in the post office queue

What are some of the signs and symptoms of stress?

  • Cognitive
  • Physical
  • Emotional
  • Behavioural

Cognitive Signs and Symptoms:

  • Memory problems
  • Inability to concentrate
  • Poor judgment
  • Seeing only the negative
  • Anxious or racing thoughts
  • Constant worrying

Physical Signs and Symptoms:

  • Aches and pains
  • Diarrhoea or constipation
  • Nausea, dizziness
  • Chest pain, rapid heartbeat
  • Loss of sex drive
  • Frequent colds

Emotional Signs and Symptoms:

  • Moodiness
  • Irritability or short temper
  • Agitation, inability to relax
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • Sense of loneliness and isolation
  • Depression or general unhappiness

Behavioural Signs and Symptoms:

  • Eating more or less
  • Sleeping too much or too little
  • Isolating yourself from others
  • Procrastinating or neglecting responsibilities
  • Using alcohol, cigarettes, or drugs to relax
  • Nervous habits (e.g. nail biting, pacing)

One of my guiding principles is that every situation, good or bad, offers a gift that provides some benefit. It’s just a matter of finding the gift. Many people who are overtaken by events are quick to declare them a setback or disaster. Instead you can ask, “Where’s the gift in this?” – John McGrath

How the Words You Use Create Your Reality

The Power of Wordspower of words

“I know nothing in the world that has as much power as a word. Sometimes I write one, and I look at it, until it begins to shine.”
― Emily Dickinson

Words … they have been used to make us laugh and cry. They can wound or heal us. They offer us hope or devastation. With words, we can make our noblest intentions felt and our deepest desires known. Words are amazing and yet we often just say them without thinking about what we are saying and the effect they could be having on ourselves or those around us.

We use words to speak to others often we also use words to speak to ourselves consistently and constantly.

Throughout human history, our greatest leaders and thinkers have used the power of words to transform our emotions, to enlist us in their causes and to shape the course of destiny. Words cannot only create emotions, they create actions. And from our actions flow the results of our lives.

Some famous speeches that have impacted world events:

Who can forget the moving invocation of Martin Luther King, Jr., as he shared his vision, “I have a dream that one day this nation will rise up and live the true meaning of its creed…”

John F Kennedy’s speech “and so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you – ask what you can do for your country.”

The speech by Earl Spencer at his sister Diana, The Princess of Wales’ funeral, “I stand before you today, the representative of a family in grief, in a country in mourning, before a world in shock.

We are all united, not only in our desire to pay our respects to Diana, but rather in our need to do so, because such was her extraordinary appeal that the tens of millions of people taking part in this service all over the world via television and radio who never actually met her feel that they too lost someone close to them in the early hours of Sunday morning.

It is a more remarkable tribute to Diana than I can ever hope to offer to her today.”

The examples could go on and on.

Many of us are well aware of the powerful part that words have played in our history, of the power that great speakers have moved us, but few of us are aware of our own power to use these same words to move ourselves emotionally, to challenge, embolden, and strengthen our spirits, to move ourselves to action, to seek greater richness from this gift we call life.

An effective selection of words to describe the experience of our lives can heighten our most empowering emotions. A poor selection of words can devastate us just as surely and just as swiftly. Most of us make unconscious choices in the words that we use; we sleep walk our way through the maze of possibilities available to us. Realise now the power that your words command if you simply choose them wisely.

This is what I am hoping to pass onto you today. The power of words. How they can change your direction, empower you and help your dreams become your reality.

Words – What a gift these simple symbols are! We transform these unique shapes we call letters (or sounds, in the case of the spoken word) into a unique and rich tapestry of human experience. They provide us with a vehicle for expressing and sharing our experience with others; however, most of us don’t realise that the words you habitually choose also affect how you communicate with yourself and therefore what you experience.

Words can injure our egos or inflame our hearts – we can instantly change any emotional experience simply by choosing new words to describe to ourselves what we’re feeling. If, however, we fail to master words, and if we allow their selection to be determined strictly by unconscious habit, we may be denigrating our entire experience of life. If you describe a magnificent experience as being “pretty good,” the rich texture of it will be smoothed and made flat by your limited use of vocabulary. People with an impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with rich vocabularies have a multi-hued palette of colours with which to pain their experience, not only for others, but for themselves as well.

Most people are not challenged though by the size of the vocabulary they consciously understand, but rather by the words they choose to use.

We must realise that the English language is filled with words that, in addition to their literal meanings, convey distinct emotional intensity. For example, if you develop a habit of saying you ‘hate’ things – you ‘hate’ your hair, you ‘hate’ your job, you ‘hate’ having to do something – do you think this raises the intensity of your negative emotional states more than if you were to use a phrase like “I dislike “ or “I prefer something else?”

Using emotionally charged words can magically transform your own state or someone else’s. How do the words “impeccable” or “integrity” compare to “well done” and “honesty”? The words “pursuit of excellence” certainly creates more intensity than “trying to make things better.”

Simply by changing your habitual vocabulary – the words you consistently use to describe the motions of your life – you can instantaneously change how you think, how you feel, and how you live.

Taken from “Awaken The Giant Within” by Anthony Robbins

“Be an inspiration to yourself and
you will be an inspiration to others.”

Mind Clutter – The Noises Are There For A Reason

What is in your mind – what is your mental clutter telling you?

The Mental Chatter is there for a Reason

  • They’re reminding you that you’ve got stuff on your plate that needs attention.
  • Many of the things bugging you are actually useful, whether it’s for motivation or simply for reminders.

How do you feel once you have decluttered?

  • Relaxed
  • Focused
  • Free
  • Value what you have
  • Pride in your environment
  • Organised
  • Controlled
  • Calm
  • Care

What are the benefits of decluttering?

  • More time
  • More efficient
  • Praise from others
  • Do things well
  • Be more comfortable
  • Live in a clean atmosphere
  • Less stress
  • Increase enjoyment
  • Relax
  • Life skills for the children