Self-Limiting Beliefs

For many of us, we have a goal that we desire in life but there is something in the background working against us in achieving that goal. This is known as a self-limiting belief.

The Top 10 self-limiting beliefs are:

  1. I’m too old.
  2. I’m not smart enough.
  3. I’m not educated enough.
  4. I’m afraid of trying and failing.
  5. You have to have money to make money.
  6. I’ve already tried everything.
  7. It’s selfish of me to want more.
  8. I don’t feel that I really deserve it.
  9. I don’t have the willpower.
  10. All the good ones are taken.

Putting Off Tasks

Putting Off TasksWe are all well aware that life is busy. At times, it may feel like it’s far too busy for us to keep up. This means that we can put off tasks that should be done. The following are some tips to help you move forward when you find you are putting tasks last on the ‘to-do’ list day-after-day or week-after-week and in some cases month-after-month.

Identify the task that you are putting off and do the task. Don’t start or do anything else until you have done that task.

If the task is something that is too difficult, you don’t have the skills, or even too trivial, then consider delegating or outsourcing.

At the beginning of each day, most time management experts recommend that you number your tasks that you intend to do for the day. It’s important that you then follow the numbers in order. This keeps you moving and helps prevent putting off tasks.

You may be delaying the task because you have forgotten how to do the task. If it’s something that you don’t do regularly, this can occur. Therefore, your next action may be to talk to someone who knows how to do it and find out how it is done (then write a system so you know how to do the task next time it comes about).

Sometimes we put off the task because we are missing information. The next step is to identify what the information is that you need and find that information. The key here is to actually work out what the information is that you need. Don’t just write an action note of “get information”. That won’t help at all. Write what the information is that you have to get. For example, “get 2013 tax return to obtain when the date taxation was submitted.”

Often, we automatically do things because they are “on our list”. However, it’s important to ask whether the task really needs to be done.  It’s frustrating to eventually complete a task only to discover that it didn’t have to be done at all!

You may have tasks on your list that involves paying for something and you have to wait until you have the money. Put the task into a “future to-do” list. Don’t have the task hanging over your head and on “the list” when there is nothing you can do at the moment to complete the task.

Action

Have a day or even a half-day in a month that is known as “finish-up day” or “completion day”. This is the day where you complete all the outstanding tasks that you haven’t finished yet. It’s an amazing feeling when this occurs as it gives you a real sense of freedom.

The most brutal option is to just not do the task. If it was important, then you would have done it by now! Face reality perhaps it’s just not that important!

14 Ways To Get The Sleep You Need

Getting enough sleep for your body helps you be more productive, have more energy, prevent weight gain, diabetes and heart disease. So what are some strategies to help you sleep better?

  1. Worry elsewhere – take 5 to 10 minutes before going to bed to work through any worries and concerns you have
  2. Get rid of the bedside clock
  3. Add magnesium
  4. Snack happy
  5. A scented bath
  6. Clear the bedroom clutter
  7. Massage your toes – in traditional Chinese medicine, a bad night’s sleep can be related to your liver Qi (energy) not flowing properly.
  8. Think about your pillow – is it the right one for you?
  9. Listen to a guided meditation
  10. Avoid sugar
  11. Do a mind dump
  12. You may have to lose weight – 70% of people who are obese or overweight have sleep apnoea.
  13. Go decaf
  14. Listen to your sleep cycle

Action: Pick one and start with that.

Life Just Is

Life just is. You have to flow with it.
Give yourself to the moment. Let it happen.
Governor Jerry Brown

303Have you ever taken the time to think about what you can and what you can’t control? I love to be in control. I love being organised and systematised as they help me be in control. However, I have come to realise that there are factors way beyond my control, and that, in order to progress I need to let go of those factors.

The only person that I can control is me. That is the person I need to rely on. I love to help people, support people, encourage people; however, at the end of the day, the only person I can control is me. I can give my best to others, but I can’t make them take action or change. They have to want to do that.

So I have relinquished control of others and it has been liberating. Life is no longer stressful when I realised that I can only control one person! I no longer take responsibility for others. I no longer hold the weight of their decisions or lack of action. So long as I am doing my best and being my best then that is what is right for me.

The other bonus is the less time you spend trying to control others, the more time you have for you! How liberating.